I want to say how happy and grateful I am that you are in my life. It’s good that we hang in there together and that we are learning things together as well.

Many things are happening in my life and are rushing to me at blinding speeds, without even me noticing it.

More than likely it’s happening to you too. The thing is that no matter how hard or fast life is coming at you we still have many things to be thankful for . . . time being one of them.

I read an article in the local newspaper this morning, which inspired me. We sometimes hardly see the whole picture when we are the one involved in the situation, and most of the time, we just need a little hint, then we are able to get out of the trap.

I had gone through a very painful divorce. I was the one who ask for divorce, but when he accepted it with no resistance and negotiation, I felt hurt. Unconsciously, I put myself into the position as a victim, and turn him to the one that decided to end the marriage. By that, I put all the blame on him.

It’s always easier for us to blame someone rather than reflect our own faults. He did things that hurt, you might consider him a betrayer in marriage, but it always takes two to tango.

Many people fall and think they are a total failure for life when things happen. But for her, when her ex-husband sent her a letter to ask for a divorce, she did not cry in front of him, or convince him not to take the action or argue with him or keep blaming him, instead, she insist to meet up with him, and ask him a question, only one question. She ask him assertively, “if you are certain that this is the only way to go, I will accept it.” then she accept it without regret, but work on herself and improve herself in life.

Many years later, she is a successful woman and she thanked for whatever happened to her previously.

This is the kind of woman that men truly respected. This is the kind of woman that I am working on to become one.